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Getting married, and spending life with your partner is a different experience. But, sometimes responsibilities, lifestyle or circumstances can make you struggle with your marriage. It might happen even if you have the best intentions.
However, you can try and keep everything perfect with the help of the tips given below. If you are ready to make an effort, we are here to help. The given suggestions are also helpful if your relationship is slipping from your hands or if you want to improve your married life.
How to avoid quarrels in your marriage?
Through effective communication, not only can you avoid petty quarrels, but you can also enjoy your marriage. Let’s see:
1. Be an active listener
Do not interrupt your partner while speaking. If you break their sentence, it might convey a message that you do not think the other person has anything important to say. Communication is not only about conveying your message. But you also have to listen to the views of your better half. So, do not break in when your loved one is talking.
2. Eliminate misunderstandings in your relationship
Misunderstandings are common in any relationship, especially in marriage. It generally leads to anger, arguments, and even divorce. So, you should learn and combat misunderstandings whenever they occur.
The best way to deal with misconceptions is to communicate your need and feelings to your partner. Talk politely and do not start a fight. Similarly, listen to the feelings of your partner and understand what you can do to keep everything right.
3. Spent some time together every day
Getting exhausted after a long day’s work and balancing all the responsibilities is natural. So, you might not be left with much time for your partner. However, you should allocate a few minutes and talk face-to-face with your better half. You can talk to them right before going to bed while eating dinner or any other time depending upon the conditions. It’s one of the best ways to reconnect with your life partner.
4. Talking more than what’s required, about your daily activities
Cleaning the house, getting the groceries, picking up the kids from school or paying the utility bills are important. But do not keep talking only about these tasks every day. Instead, talk about your interests, current events, new movies, sports or whatever you think can keep you linked together. Try different topics to keep the conversation exciting.
5. Think before you speak
You cannot take back the words once you speak them. So, think before you say something to your partner. If you are extremely upset and talking face to face is impossible, use text messages. You can also send a letter or note. Do not type with caps on. All caps give the impression that you are not in a good mood, or you are shouting. Keep in mind that you love your partner and making them feel bad is not the solution to any problem.
6. Stop the guesswork
Communication becomes challenging sometimes, especially when things are tough and complicated. Still, never assume what is going on in the mind of your partner. Talk to them to know what they feel and try to find solutions. In addition, tell your problems to your better half in clear words. Do not leave them confused.
7. Care for their thoughts
Put yourself in the shoes of your partner. Try to understand their feelings in all the situations. Give their expressions more value than your thoughts.
For instance, suppose your better half is concerned about not getting invited to a social event, but you find out these things unimportant and silly. But you do not have to say it. Instead, empathize with your partner. You can say, do not worry, we will find out why we are not invited so that people send us an invitation next time onwards. Your partner will like this statement and will love you more.
Conclusion
Effective communication is one of the best ways to enjoy or improve your marriage. You cannot resolve conflicts and misunderstandings without having good conversations with your life partner. So, develop a habit of listening, spent more time together, respect your better half, care for their feelings and think before you speak.
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