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A famous coach who used to train mountain climbers said –
One of the biggest obstacles in the way of those who want to become successful climbers is the fear of embarrassment.
This prevents you from achieving real growth and development. No matter what you’re trying to learn or accomplish, the fear of embarrassment becomes an obstacle for many people.
We’re not asking you to get over your fear of embarrassment. Instead, you can use it as an integral part of your development process. How?
We’ll let you know later. First, let’s figure out how this can prevents people from their development and change.
Writing or Blogging
You want to turn the stories & thoughts of your mind into text, but you don’t go ahead for fear of embarrassment. Also, you are not interested in feedback and reviews, which can improve your text. Imagine how you can take your writing to the next level by getting reviews from experienced writers and readers.
Help from others
Many people do not want to seek help from others because they are ashamed to do so. “I’m not doing as well as I say I’m struggling right now”, and similar statements allow others to judge you. That’s why people who are shy cannot get company around them.
Business expansion
If you are planning to start a new business or to expand your existing brand, you may be stuck for a number of reasons. Sometimes we do not see what we should see. So, you can get feedback from experienced businessmen. But, it can be embarrassing for many people
We could talk about many other situations where the fear of embarrassment stops progress. If you’re shy, you can’t take care of yourself, develop strong relationships, then you may have to deal with the overwhelming chaos of life alone.
Embarrassment – Why is it an integral part of the growth process?
Do you want to grow without embarrassing yourself? Then, you must learn and fail in private. But, this is not the correct process, isn’t it? Before you can be good at something, you have to be bad at it. The growth process involves learning, especially when you mess up. Reading blogs and watching videos cannot give you the real experience. Have to try, stumble and take support when needed. Or you might think you’re doing it all wrong and give up, which is embarrassing.
You are breaking the self image you have created for yourself. You have stepped into a new level of development, which also means that you may not be the person who has everything sorted out and is living a happy life. If you are the person who has it all, it may mean that you are not growing.
So, grow, learn and change yourself. Let go of who you think you are and what you want others to feel about you. It can be embarrassing to let go. If you avoid this embarrassment, you may not see your growth. You will never enter uncharted territory where you can learn new things and you can never be who you want to be.
How to deal with the fear of embarrassment?
You fear embarrassment, but do you know how it is holding you back and your growth? Can you work with this fear and succeed? The answer to this question can be difficult to understand. However, we will give you a few starting points.
Recognize when it’s holding you back
When do you feel the fear of embarrassment? When you try to share something with people, or when you want to get some reviews or feedback on your work, you don’t have to worry about it coming out. Name this feeling as “fear” and don’t think too much about it.
Pay attention to the effects of this fear on your life
Fear of embarrassment, is it keeping you safe from someone. What if you didn’t care about this fear? Think about the circumstances if you were to stop seeing this fear as an obstacle.
Ask questions
The world created by this fear is limiting you. So, think about what you might get if you let go of this layer of shame. What if you don’t worry about this fear.
Try to come out of fear
How can fear of embarrassment hold you back from achieving your goals? Is fear powerful or you? If you want to learn to climb, do it in front of others and perform poorly.
Dance in public without worrying about what people think of your moves. Write whatever you want and send it to everyone to get review. Get help from a coach or group to improve yourself.
live with fear
The fear of embarrassment will stop you from doing the things you want to do. Whether it’s getting feedback, offering coaching, or asking for support, that’s fine. Fear is not the end of you, it is just a feeling.
You may feel scared, but don't take it too seriously.
Instead, think of the “fear of embarrassment” as an experience.
Thank You 🙏
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